Expressing Imperfection | Jolting your Relationship with Presence & Courage

If things aren’t perfect or aren’t as you expect or aren’t as good as they were;

If you are feeling different, if you are ashamed of your thoughts and if you don’t know what’s going on;

If you are losing yourself completely or you are experiencing a mild form of unhappiness;

There’s no one better to share this with than your life partner, your one true lover, your soulmate.

If you’ll wait for your dissatisfaction, unhappiness, disharmony, depression, confusion or whatever you are feeling to be repressed for too long then it will show up in your life and your relationship in a bigger and stronger way.

Being true to yourself isn’t enough; you need to be true to your partner,  or rather – being true to yourself also means expressing and not hiding what’s truly going on within you.

Why suffer when you don’t have to?

Even if you think that there is ‘nothing to do about it’ or ‘you don’t understand what’s going on’ – sharing it and talking about it will make it so much clearer and will make you and your partner feel involved.

I’m sure you can relate to this – Its much better to feel not-totally-loved and involved in what’s going on than to feel superficially-loved and at the same time feel something ain’t right and you aren’t being told about it.

That is the case at least for the ones who value their relationship and long-term happiness over how they value their own short-term happiness or certainty.

If you remember to put your relationship above all, above what you think you should or shouldn’t hide, above fantasies about how all problems will somehow magically disappear, above the fear of difficulty and break up – then you’ll have a much more authentic, profound and deep loving relationship based on communication, truth and a love; that goes beyond the scope of oneself and a happiness which goes beyond how I feel in the next 1-3 days.

What’s a relationship if any side has a moderate vested interest in it and in each other? Exactly, a moderate relationship – is that what you want? Why not have a fully vested interest in your relationship?

Only when you have a fully vested interest in your relationship you have a chance of experiencing a truly fulfilling relationship, enriched by your active presence.

At any moment I prefer to have a relationship where I’m involved in it and dedicated to it because not only it feels more real – it’s because that’s where I have the chance to help make it greater and go through all the challenges while looking forward or upward if you will; and not focusing on what’s wrong but on what’s right and where do we want to go together.